"O divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console; to be understood as to understand; to be loved as to love. For it is in giving that we receive; it is in pardoning that we are pardoned; and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life."
-St. Francis of Assisi
So recently I've been so very concerned about my relationship with my boyfriend; concerned that he does not possess all the things that I need. Is he strong enough in his faith to keep mine strong? Does he consume his time focused on things that I also care about? Does he have the same interests as me? Soon I found myself in a spiral of thoughts convincing myself that my boyfriend is not good enough for me. In this tornado of negative thoughts, I kept digging myself deeper and deeper into thoughts of things he should be doing for me. I can imagine how I am driving him crazy telling him all these things he needs to be for me! How self-consumed I have become!!
Today God spoke to my heart and I discovered that I have been asking all the wrong questions. I should be asking: "How can my faith benefit him?"; "What can I do to focus on the things that he likes?"; "What can I show interest in that he is interested in?"; "Am I being good enough for him?"
So from now on, I will put him before myself. Providing him with understanding and love. And asking him, "What can I do today to make you happy?" And giving him a hug for free, not looking for anything in return.
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